S3x After Menopause - 7 Reasons S3x Is Better After 50

Are you over 50 and you have little to no drive for s3x and you think it’s a result of your age? Well, I’m here to tell you it’s not. Not really anyway. It’s mostly in your head as a result of what experts and society has made us believe for many years.

Young unmarried women have always been made to believe that s3x is something that they would eventually get tired of. When I was a teenager and had just started to mingle with boys my dad would scold me. And during his scolding one of the things he would always say and I’ll paraphrase him is ‘s3x that you’d eventually get tired of is what you want to start now’. Yes. He always thought a man and a woman spending time together was all about having s3x.

Also a neighbor that is currently 53 years old who claims that currently she has no urge for s3x whatsoever and even gets irritated when her partner try to grab on to her, would always tell me whenever I fantasize about what I would do with my future husband that “e go tire you”.

And honestly it seems she’s right. Most Nigerian women after having one or two kids no longer see the need to dress up for their husbands. They find every excuse to get out of having s3x with their husbands and if their husband make any romantic gestures, they shove him off and remind him they are not newlyweds. As if when God gave married couple the gift of sexual pleasure he added some conditions to it.

It's so bad that some of us unmarried women have become concerned about getting married because we feel marriage ruin a good relationship including the s3x. Some think marriage s3x is boring. But the truth is, s3x drive and the lack of it has more to do with an individual’s attitude towards it than it has to do with their age and anything else. Actually there are good reasons to believe that s3x gets better with age.

Some experts say that menopausal women will have waning s3x drive and dried up hormones, but it’s not completely true. If it was there wouldn’t be people like Madonna (currently 57 years old) who are still rocking their lives as much as they did when they were young. And there wouldn’t be so many sugar mummies in Nigeria looking for younger men to make them happy and give them sexual pleasure. Actually it’s possible that when a woman is over 50 she would want s3x more. And below are 5 reasons why s3x is better after 50 and how you can make it better if it currently isn’t for you.

5 Reasons S3x is Better for Menopausal Women

1. Freedom to have sex whenever and wherever you want. At over 50 you very likely don’t have any young kids to take care of. That means no waking up at midnight to attend to a crying child. By now your kids are likely grown enough to take care of themselves. And you have more time to yourself and therefore more time to your husband. Also there’s no menses to worry about anymore!

"You’re not bothered by menses. You’re not bothered by kids in the house. You can have s3x in any room in the house," says Irwin Goldstein, MD, the director of San Diego Sexual Medicine at Alvarado Hospital. “You can have the greatest s3x life on earth.”

2. No pregnancy worries. There’s nothing like skin on skin. The fear of getting pregnant when you don’t want to honestly takes away from the pleasure of s3x. And we women still within the age of conceiving a child have to use condom when we have s3x because even though we know it doesn’t feel the same, we know we don’t want to be pregnant when we’re not ready. I know life is in stages and I am enjoying the stage I am now. But the stage where I wouldn’t have to worry about monthly periods, pads and condoms is something I look forward to. And you that is in that stage should take every advantage of it!

"Forty to fifty is still an anxiety point for many women because you can still get pregnant," says Margaret E. Wierman, MD, a professor of medicine, physiology, and biophysics at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center, in Denver. "Once you’re menopausal, that worry is gone."

3. You know what you want. At this age there’s no learning and there’s no shyness from you when it comes to giving and receiving sexual pleasure. If you’re fortunate to still be with the partner you first married, by now the two of you know your bodies very well and knows how to give each other the ultimate pleasure in bed. If you’re not with your first husband, maybe widowed or divorced then it’s time to start dating. No, you’re not too old to find love again. Maybe you want a sugar baby? A new partner brings new excitement. Remember how it felt like when you were younger and met someone new? It will awaken all the emotions you think you’ve lost.

4. You may want it more.

"Experts will tell you that declining hormones could mean you’ll want it less, but that isn’t necessarily so. Desire, once quelled by birth control pills, could resurge, and if desire is a problem, proper hormone management can help," she says. While long-term use of traditional hormone replacement therapies, which include estrogen and progestin, are no longer recommended due to the heart and health risks, there are other options. "Hormone therapies that include testosterone are being explored as a way to boost libido", says Dr. Richards.

5. You can afford to relax and just have fun. By now you must have achieved most of your goals. So you have more time. And with lesser financial responsibility now, you have more money to spend on get away trips, and whatever leisure activity interest you. Things you likely couldn’t do before. You’ve worked hard. You likely have played the role of a super mum. The woman who worked long hours to contribute to the financial needs of the family while still making the time to play the role of a wife and mother. Now you deserve to just relax and have fun.

6. You’re related and comfortable with who you are. That will reflect positively on your sexual drive and sexual performance.

There’s some data to suggest that women become less inhibited as they age, so it’s often a time of relaxation and being comfortable with who you are, and that often improves sexual functioning and sexual performance.

Dr. Wierman

7. You can take advantage of hormonal changes to experiment. At midlife hormonal changes in women can cause vaginal dryness. But instead of seeing this as a bad thing take advantage of it. Use it as an excuse to experiment. With experimenting comes amazing discoveries. Experiment and discover new, more pleasurable experiences thanks to lubricant.

Vaginal dryness after menopause may encourage woman to experiment with vaginal lubricants designed to promote vasodilation and thus increase pleasure, such as K-Y Intense.
Dr. Richards

If your partner has any performance problem like premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction or low hormones, it can be treated. Just see a gynecologist or sexologist to discuss your problem and find the right solution.

And if your partner’s sexual performance problem can not be resolved, well, take advantage of it.

Menopausal woman may have more mature partners, who, due to performance issues, are open to the use of vibrators for a more satisfying sexual experience.

Dr. Richards

The doctors’ quotes in this article were taken from the article on s3x after menopause on health.com.

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